Podcast

In this bonus episode I talk to Jo Stimson, founder of the Sales Only membership group about why we find sales such a tricky subject.  There are huge amounts of defence mechanisms coming out to play here, all ready to trip us up.  It’s a must listen for anyone who finds sales a struggle and needs to...

Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life with your host, Julia! In this episode, I dive into the curious phenomenon of not being able to imagine life after a big event—be it a long-awaited holiday, Christmas, or any milestone. Why do we focus everything on the buildup and then feel lost or “blank” once it’s over?...

Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life with Julia! In this episode, I explore why we sometimes hand over important decisions to people whose judgment we wouldn’t even trust to pick our lunch. Through stories of dog-sitting, business frustrations, and family dynamics, I examines what’s going on beneath the surface when we seek outside advice during...

In this episode, I explore the concept of narcissism, from its everyday expressions at family barbecues or holiday trips, to its deeper psychodynamic origins. As our summer holidays approach, I reflect on how personality dynamics, group travel, and different planning styles can bring personal patterns (and those of others) into sharper focus. I explain how...

In this episode, I unpack the popular marketing advice to “address the problem of your client”, exploring why that’s effective, and where it misses the deeper, messier reality of human problems. Drawing from my psychodynamic training and experience, I highlight how, psychologically, the problems we present are rarely as straightforward as they seem. Everything from...

Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life! In this episode, I explore the intricate ways we use humor as a defence mechanism, both consciously and unconsciously, to navigate challenging emotions and complex social situations. I delve into how laughter and humor can serve as a protective layer, masking our true feelings or keeping others at...

In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD)—a term often discussed in relation to ADHD but not officially recognized in the DSM. I explore what RSD actually is, why so many people relate to the feelings it describes, and how our upbringing and internal dynamics (like the superego) might...

Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life. This episode I dive deep into the fascinating world of public scandals, social media judgments, and why we get so invested in the private lives of strangers. I explore the recent Coldplay “Jumbotron incident” and break down the psychological defense mechanisms—like projection and displacement—that drive our reactions. [00:03:15]...

Welcome back to the “Dynamics of Everyday Life”! This week, I dig into those challenging moments when we start to question ourselves, second-guess our decisions, or even wonder if we’re “the problem” in tricky situations. Inspired in part by the famous Taylor Swift lyric, I explore how we can find ourselves carrying feelings or responsibilities...

Welcome back to the Dynamics of Everyday Life! In this episode, I dive into the curious and sometimes frustrating topic of why we tend to repeat the same patterns in life—whether it’s relationships, emotional reactions, work situations, or even the music stuck in our heads. The episode kicks off with a fun, nostalgic riff on...