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Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life! In this episode, I dive deep into the art—and myth—of “perfect listening.” I reflect on my own journey in coaching, challenging the classic belief that being told you’re a “good listener” means you actually are one.There’s no such thing as a perfect listener, because listening is always relational—not...
Welcome to another episode of The Dynamics of Everyday Life. In today’s episode, I tackle the frustrating world of the “non-apology”—those pseudo-apologies that leave us feeling worse than before, often making us question our own experiences. Explores classic examples like “I’m sorry you feel that way” and “I’m sorry if anyone was offended,” highlighting how...
In this episode, I dive into the all-too-relatable habit of procrastinating on what’s good for us; by binge-watching Netflix, endlessly scrolling on Instagram, or getting sucked into comfort activities instead of what we know would make us feel better. Inspired by Netflix’s infamous “Are you still watching?” prompt, I explore why we so often avoid...
In this episode, I dive deep into the ever-evolving world of friendships—especially what happens to our friendships when life gets tough. Drawing from my own recent experiences, I explore how trauma can impact our capacity to maintain relationships, why our friend circles might shrink, and the common misunderstandings that occur on both sides. [00:01:06] Julia...
In this bonus episode I talk to Jo Stimson, founder of the Sales Only membership group about why we find sales such a tricky subject. There are huge amounts of defence mechanisms coming out to play here, all ready to trip us up. It’s a must listen for anyone who finds sales a struggle and needs to...
Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life with your host, Julia! In this episode, I dive into the curious phenomenon of not being able to imagine life after a big event—be it a long-awaited holiday, Christmas, or any milestone. Why do we focus everything on the buildup and then feel lost or “blank” once it’s over?...
Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life with Julia! In this episode, I explore why we sometimes hand over important decisions to people whose judgment we wouldn’t even trust to pick our lunch. Through stories of dog-sitting, business frustrations, and family dynamics, I examines what’s going on beneath the surface when we seek outside advice during...
In this episode, I explore the concept of narcissism, from its everyday expressions at family barbecues or holiday trips, to its deeper psychodynamic origins. As our summer holidays approach, I reflect on how personality dynamics, group travel, and different planning styles can bring personal patterns (and those of others) into sharper focus. I explain how...
In this episode, I unpack the popular marketing advice to “address the problem of your client”, exploring why that’s effective, and where it misses the deeper, messier reality of human problems. Drawing from my psychodynamic training and experience, I highlight how, psychologically, the problems we present are rarely as straightforward as they seem. Everything from...
Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life! In this episode, I explore the intricate ways we use humor as a defence mechanism, both consciously and unconsciously, to navigate challenging emotions and complex social situations. I delve into how laughter and humor can serve as a protective layer, masking our true feelings or keeping others at...